In a pan, take half teacup water and jaggery and boil the mixture until jaggery dissolves, keep stirring.
Strain dissolved jaggery water to remove any residue, keep it aside.
Rinse and soak moong dal in water for half hour.
Method
Heat 2 tbsp ghee in a heavy bottom kadhai (wok). Add dalia and roast it on medium flame until colour changes to golden, at this stage a very tempting and nice aroma is obtained.
Add moong dal, mix properly.
Add 2 teacups water, stir it, cover the kadhai with the lid, lower the flame and let it simmer on low flame till it is tender and water evaporates.
Occasionally keep stirring, if necessary add some more boiled water.
Now add jaggery water, stir it and simmer it until water evaporates. (Increase or decrease jaggery and desi ghee as per your taste.)
In a pan heat little ghee, roast coconut and other dry fruits.
Sprinkle cardamom powder and add dry fruits and mix well. (Reserve few dry fruits for garnishing).
Transfer lapsi to the serving dish, garnish it with dry fruits and drizzle some desi ghee on it and serve it hot.